First, understand yourself.
Answer honestly and privately. There are no perfect answers. Give each other time to think.
Partner A
Have a gentle conversation.
Take turns answering. Listen to understand, not to prepare your reply. Try not to interrupt or blame.
What makes you feel loved and appreciated by me?
When we disagree, what would help you feel safe and heard?
What is one small thing we can do together this week?
What should we do when either of us becomes upset?
Create your seven-day agreement.
Keep your promises realistic and specific. Small actions that actually happen are more useful than big promises that are forgotten.
Our seven-day agreement
Tip: Save your answers before leaving this page. You can also download a copy for your own records.
After seven days, check in with each other.
You don't need a perfect week. Be honest about what helped, what was difficult, and what you want to try next.
A note about safety and respect
This exercise is intended for relationships where both people can speak freely and safely. If there is fear, intimidation, violence, coercion, or controlling behaviour, do not feel pressured to complete this exercise together. Prioritise safety and seek trusted, appropriate support.